Ethics and culture

Sensuality and eroticism, like beauty, are in the eye of the beholder. Rather, they are in the mind and imagination of those who seek them out and of those who crave them. Imagination and desire have for too long been repressed in our society, and liberty can take many forms: releasing the erotic imagination is one of them, and, in this, I am an agent of liberation.


We are all responsible for our own actions in life, and I have little time for those who do not accept responsibility for their themselves. However, when someone willingly places him- or herself in my care, I am responsible for their well-being. Under these unique circumstances of visiting a professional dominatrix, the outside world is suspended and responsibility is given over to me for the agreed period of time. This is sometimes a challenge, sometimes it is an honour, but it is something I willingly accept: be assured that I never betray that responsibility, or your trust.

I do, of course, adhere to the internationally recognised BDSM code of "safe, sane and consensual”. I honour this code absolutely and, although my heavy sessions are exactly that, I will not consider any activity that violates this code, and I will not tolerate the consumption of any intoxicants whatsoever in my presence or on my premises.

It is within this context that I enjoy pushing limits whilst still respecting them, and I strive to inspire confidence at every step of the journey.

I welcome sincere first-timers, novices and seasoned submissives alike and without prejudice. Sincerity is rewarded with my responsibility and respect: I am strict, sometimes stern, but also warm and always approachable.

Professionalism and the importance of communication

Clearly, while I take the lead in domination, I effectively work with those who entrust themselves to me in order to arrive at the desired outcome. This is achieved by the essential process of close communication. I am well versed in the mechanisms of this process, which are explained in more detail on the other pages of this site (see especially the "session etiquette” section of my studio page).

I describe myself as a lifestyle dominatrix; I’m well travelled, have lived in four different countries, and have experienced much of what life has to offer. While I am absolutely open-minded, accepting, non-judgemental and effectively unshockable, inevitably there are activities that do not appeal to me, and that is my prerogative. For example, while I most definitely am not a man-hater and do like having fun when I dominate, I do not provide sexual services. The liberation I offer does not involve sex; those who are seeking sex as part of domination should apply to those who offer it. The activities I will not consider are listed in more detail on my studio, domestic room and questions pages of this site.

As the above will indicate to the discerning reader, I conduct myself professionally and to high standards of etiquette, and I expect all who approach me to do so respectfully. At the same time, I am down-to-earth and am not fond of the trivialities of etiquette. Of course, if you don’t think my style of domination is for you, then you are welcome to continue your search for a mistress that will suit you. However, if you are fascinated by a cultured approach to BDSM and fetish desire, then you may well be the kind of person who will find reward in discovering more with me as your guide.

Personal interests

Personally, my BDSM-scene passions are leather, corsets, boots and heels and hats; rope; and well-designed, finely made specialist implements and equipment for use in both punishment and delectation. I possess many fine examples of all of the above, many of them in abundance. My general philosophy in life is "quality, not quantity”, and I apply this philosophy every day, from my choice of and method of making coffee, to wine, to choosing a corset or a flogger, to the application of BDSM in practice.

Outside of "the scene” I enjoy the fine arts and the performing arts of most forms and genres (I am also an artist, thus I hand-make my own cilices from surgical steel); innovative and competent design in general application from stationery to clothes and shoes to architecture; motorcycling; and of course leather (yes, I love leather outside of the context of the BDSM scene).

Reading is an experience in its own right, and by taking the time to read these pages you will already have entered my world. I look forward to celebrating the art of BDSM with those who share my standards and interests.

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